Adult only. Private by design.
Sex party rules for a private night
Sex party rules are the lines you say before anyone is in the room. This page is for a private invited night among adults, not a game night and not a children's party. You invite the people you would actually let in. Each couple gets one private link. They agree to those lines before they say yes or no to anyone.
The short answer
You choose the list. There is no public guest pool. People join when you invite them, or when they apply and you approve them. An application does not put someone in the room until you approve it. A yes to the invitation means they are coming. It is not a yes to sex with anyone in the room. A yes to a person is separate, and a match exists only when both sides said yes.
A private no stays private, and a one-sided yes stays hidden. The night is for adults only, and the guest list stays private. Each guest confirms they are 18 or older, and you still check them in at the door. The street stays held until you release it. A place name can go out earlier so people can judge the drive.
Say the format in the first note. A key party is one shared reveal. A play party is people moving through the house after you open the matches. A speed date is a clock. Pick one night and keep it, so couples who packed for another format hear that before they leave home.
Write one rule per line
Say the night in the first note: the format, the dress, whether phones stay down, which rooms stay closed, and the room shape. If you want a certain kind of clothes, say the kind. If you do not care, say that too, so nobody treats a guess as a rule. A straight room is couples of one man and one woman, with no singles and no same-gender couples. A bi-friendly room allows same-gender couples and does not add singles. You answer the people you are open to. An open room can include a single guest you named. Open describes who was invited, and it is not the same as bi-friendly. The host can change that shape only before answers close. If you set the night so couples answer together, the invite has to say that. The usual night is one person at a time. One line is one rule. Guests agree before they say yes or no. If you change a line, they agree again. A rule you add at the door is a different agreement from the one they already accepted.
There is no switch for soft or full. Soft usually means the night stops short of intercourse with someone else. Full includes it. Rooms do not use those words the same way, so the house rules have to say the line. The ceiling is the lower partner's yes. A yes is about a person, not a menu of acts.
Same room or a separate room is where people are, not how far the night goes. If the living room stays clothed enough that someone can walk in, and another room is where clothes come off, write that. On premise means sex can happen at the party. Off premise means that part happens somewhere else. The words sex party do not decide the line. Your first note does. Ask before you touch. Stop when someone stops. Either person can leave. They tell you, and they do not owe the room a speech. Name the closed rooms before guests arrive. If phones stay in the kitchen, the bedroom is not a second chance to take a photo. A play party already has a longer note on that format. This page is the list you can read for any private night you host, including a key party or a speed date.
What the rules mean at the door
Your own partner is never someone you answer about. On a key party each person is one photo and one name, and they can change an answer until you close them. On a play party you say yes or no to one person, unless you set the night so couples answer together, and those answers stay open until you close them. On a speed date either partner can answer until you start the next round. While answers are open, and if you left that comparison on, the two people in a couple can see each other's yes and no. You can turn that off for the whole party. Nobody else sees those answers.
The group chat opens when someone joins. Guests do not get a private thread with each other. A message to the host is only for you and your co-hosts. You check people in. They show a door code or a pass on their phone. They cannot check themselves in. If someone has already decided to sit the night out, you do not check them in, and you do not announce it.
Phones stay down when the rules say so. Do not photograph other guests. Do not repeat a private no to the room. The app does not police the bedroom. You and the guests do. Email and reminders use a public-safe name, or Your event, so the real party name stays in the app.
The reveal follows the format
On a key party you start the reveal when the room is ready. Phones wait about ten seconds. The room sees one person, only if both people said yes. A later round is still one person at a time. Each person can send one stronger yes for the party. If both people sent it, the reveal can say so. That stronger yes is not a match by itself. If both partners needed to finish and one did not, that couple is not in the reveal. Say that before the deadline. Check-in opens on the party day, after answers close.
On a play party you close the answers, check people in, and then open the matches. Matches do not open by themselves. Checking someone in does not open the names. Each checked-in guest then sees every person where both said yes, one person at a time. There is no single pairing for the whole room. On a play party the list of matches does not announce the stronger yes. It is not a match by itself. Your job after that is the rooms, the music, and anyone who needs a break. A match is permission to talk, not an assignment.
A new speed date starts at five minutes a round. You can change the length, pause, add time, or skip. Either partner can answer until you start the next round. A match needs both couples to say yes. The screen shows both names and one couple photo. Either partner can update that photo. People stay dressed. Couples you have not met yet are view only. On an open speed date a single answers for themselves. A singles speed date is a separate host setting, and the invite has to say which. Breaks rotate so no couple sits out two rounds in a row. A couple is never seated with itself. Sharing a phone number, an email, a handle, or a note after a match is optional. When the rules are yours, start from the host home and write them before the first link goes out.
What each couple settles first
Ask every couple to talk before they answer anyone. The kitchen, with the lights on, is a better room than the car outside your house. They should say what they hope for, what is off the table, and the word they will use if one of them wants a pause. A yes is about a person, not a menu of acts. The ceiling is the lower yes in the couple. You already wrote soft or full in the rules. Their private talk does not raise that ceiling.
A yes to your invite is only a yes to come. Either of them can still say no to a person, and that no stays private. If they cannot agree with each other, they tell you and sit the night out. You do not check them in. They do not owe the couch a speech. You can walk the night as a guest first, including either partner. A test does not send email, a push, or a reminder.
Write the end of the night in the invite. Say when the lights come up, whether people should plan a ride home, and what you will do if someone will not follow a rule. You ask them to leave, and you do not check them in if they have not arrived yet. A house you know is the usual room. A hotel is the other honest room when the list is small. A hotel bill is paid to the hotel. The hosting help is where you read the door, the list, and the moment you open the names.
FAQ
Is this a list of party games?
No. Sex party rules here are consent and house rules for a private invited night. Drinking games and video-game nights are a different search.
Is this the same page as play party rules?
No. Play party rules cover that format. This page is the host's list before you pick a key party, a play party, or a speed date.
Does coming mean they will have sex?
No. A yes to the invitation means they are coming. A yes to a person is separate, private, and a match only when both sides said yes.
Can someone join without an invite?
No. People join when you invite them, or when you approve an application. An application does not put someone in the room until you approve it. Finding this page does not put anyone on a guest list.
When do matches show?
On a key party you start the reveal, and the room sees one person only if both people said yes. On a play party you close the answers, check people in, and then open the matches. On a speed date a match needs both couples to say yes. A one-sided yes stays hidden.
When the list is ready, you can host a play party. You can start hosting from your own list.