A play party with a private yes.

The night

Say yes or no, talk, check in, then your matches.

You answer about one person at a time: one photo and one name. Chat is open before check-in. You see a match only when both people said yes.

1. 1

   Say yes or no to one person

   You see one photo and one name. Your own partner is never someone you answer about. Yes or no stays private, and you can change an answer until the deadline.

2. 2

   Talk before check-in

   The group chat opens when you join, so you can chat before check-in and before the night starts. Guests do not message each other in private. A message to the host is a private note only the host and co-hosts see.

3. 3

   Check in at the door

   Each guest has a code and a QR pass. The host checks you in. You cannot check yourself in. If you would rather not take part, tell the host.

4. 4

   See every match

   Answers stay hidden until the host opens them. Then each guest who is checked in sees every match where both people said yes, one person at a time. A yes from only one person stays hidden. A private no stays private.

The other nights

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The same private yes, a quieter ending

A play party is for hosts who want private answers without a speech in the living room. You answer about people. A straight room answers about the other side. A bi-friendly or open room can show two people from another couple, still as two people. Your own partner is never someone you answer about.

Yes or no stays on your phone until the deadline. A private no stays private. Chat opens when you join, before check-in. It is one room. Message host is the only private note, and only the host and co-hosts see it.

Check-in opens on party day, after answers lock. You show a code or a QR pass. The host checks you in, then opens the matches. That is when you see each person where both of you said yes, one person at a time. There is no shared reveal for the whole room.

What to expect in the room

A match is a conversation, not a claim. House rules you agreed to before you answered still apply after a match. Anyone can slow down. The app will not announce that pause.

The street address stays hidden until the host releases it. A place name can show earlier. Do not demand the street in chat. If you would rather not play, tell the host. You cannot check yourself in, and you cannot check yourself out with a hidden button.

Phones down for other people's faces and names unless the rules allow photos. Do not recap who you declined on the ride home. If you wanted the room to find out together, that is a key party, and the host can run that format next time.

What the host is doing

The host writes the rules, sends the links, and watches who has finished. They release the address when travel needs it. They scan the pass. They do not narrate matches. A speech that names the matches is a key party, and the host can run that format when the room wants the reveal together.

A test party is the rehearsal. The host can open the guest app as either partner. Test parties do not send email, push, or reminders. The real night uses the same dashboard.

Straight, bi-friendly, or open

A straight room answers about the other side. A bi-friendly or open room can show two people from another couple, and those two people are still two separate people. You are not answering about a couple as a unit. Your own partner never appears.

An open room can include singles. Straight and bi-friendly rooms are couples. The host picks the shape and puts it in the invite. If the list surprises you, that is a host problem, and Message host is the private way to say so.

A Friday with no speech

Twelve people. Chat has been open since they joined. Everyone agreed to the house rules before the first answer. The host does not stand up and read names. They check one couple in, then open that couple's matches on their phones, one person at a time.

The next couple sees a different list. There is no shared reveal and no second pairing for the room. A one-sided yes stays on the phone that sent it. A private no stays private. If you wanted the whole room to gasp at once, that is the key party, and it is a different night.

Before you leave the house

Read the rules with your partner. Use a photo that matches the person walking in. Finish the deck if the host required both of you.

Leave other people's photos in the app. Email will not carry the real party name, so do not put it back on a story. At the door, show the pass and let the host check you in. If the night is not yours, say so and go. You do not owe the room a recap of who you declined.

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