Meet first. Then decide.

The night

Meet, decide, then see the couple.

A speed date is the couple. Both names, one couple photo. You meet before you say yes or no.

1. 1

   Invite the couples

   Each couple gets one private link. The host sets the round length and how many tables are in use. A new party starts at five minutes.

2. 2

   Meet in rounds

   The host starts the clock. Couples meet one table at a time. A couple with no seat that round takes a break. Breaks rotate, so no couple sits out two rounds in a row. The host starts the next round when ready.

3. 3

   Yes or no after you meet

   The decision comes after the meeting. Yes or no is one answer for the couple. Either partner can answer, and it applies to both. Either can change it until the next round starts. A match needs both couples to say yes. A private no stays private.

4. 4

   Both names, one photo

   You see both names and one couple photo. Either partner can add or replace that photo. You see your matches when the host reveals them. A key party reveal is not part of this night.

The other nights

Back to the homepage or the speed date guide.

The clock is the host's

A new speed date starts at five minutes a round. The host starts the next round when ready. Either partner can change a yes or a no until that next round starts.

Phones share the countdown. The host can start, pause, add time, and skip a couple who stepped out. Skipping rebuilds rounds that have not happened. You see a table number and who you are meeting. Breaks rotate, so no couple sits out two rounds in a row. A unit is never paired with itself.

Straight rooms seat couples with the other couples. Bi-friendly and open rooms only seat two sides when someone in each is open to someone in the other. An open room can include singles. Say that in the invite so nobody is surprised at table one.

Decide after you have talked

You do not pick from a stack of photos in the car. You sit the round, then the couple is there. For a couple, both names share one photo. Either partner can add or replace that photo. You are not answering about your own partner.

Yes or no is one answer for the couple. Either partner can answer for both. A match needs both couples to say yes. A missing answer or any no stays off the list, and it is not shown to them. Either partner can change it until the next round starts. Do not compare answers out loud in the hall.

The host reveals when the rounds are done. Phones wait a short countdown. Each couple sees the matches where both sides said yes, and not the rest of the room. Group chat, if it is open, is still one room. Follow-up in person comes after you both know the match exists.

Door, address, and a clean no

Only the host checks you in. Show the code or the QR pass. The street stays hidden until the host releases it. A place name can show first. Email and reminders say Your event, or a public-safe name.

If you need to leave a round, tell the host so the skip is clean. A no after a polite round is allowed. Announcing it is not. House rules still cover touching, phones, and breaks. Agree to them before you decide on anyone.

How many yeses make a match

Yes or no is one answer for the couple. Either partner can answer for both, and either can change it until the next round starts. Two couples match only when both couples say yes. A single answers for themselves. A match still needs both sides to say yes. A missing answer or any no is not a match, and it is not shown to them.

You can change that answer until the next round starts. After the host starts the next round, the earlier answer stays. Do not compare answers in the hall while the round is still open.

After the reveal, contact is optional

The host reveals when the rounds are done. Phones wait about ten seconds. Each couple sees the matches where both sides said yes, and not the rest of the room. Nothing about a phone number is automatic.

When both sides said yes, you can choose to share a phone, an email, a handle, or a short note, and you can stop sharing. If they have not shared, you can see that. You do not get their details because you matched. Group chat, if the host left it open, is still one room. Guests still do not message each other in private.

A six couple clock

Six couples, straight room, five minute rounds. The host starts the clock, then starts each next round when ready. Phones share the countdown. Breaks rotate, so no couple sits out two rounds in a row. The host can pause, resume, add two minutes, or skip a couple who stepped out. A skip rebuilds rounds that have not happened yet.

You sit the conversation, then you see both names and one couple photo. Yes or no is one answer for the couple. When the host reveals, you see only the couples who both said yes. The people you declined never see a no with their name on it.

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