Adult only. Private by design.
How to host a speed date
A speed date is a private night you host for couples. They meet for a short round, say yes or no after they meet, and only a mutual yes is shown.
What it is
A speed date is timed rounds in one invited room. The card is the couple: both names and one couple photo. Either partner can add that photo or replace it later. Guests do not swipe before they arrive. They say yes or no after they meet.
Yes or no is one answer for the couple. Either partner can answer, and it applies to both. Either can change it until the next round starts. A match needs both couples to say yes. You reveal those mutual matches when the rounds end. A one-sided yes stays hidden. A no is never shown as a no.
Adult only. Private by design. You confirm they are 18 or older. There is no public guest pool.
What it is not
A key party uses one person per card and reveals one Play Partner. A play party has no rounds and no couple card.
The rounds are not a promise of play. Soft or full is the ceiling you wrote, not a table assignment. Same room or a separate room is where bodies are, if the night goes there at all. On premise or off premise is the address of play. Say that before anyone sits down.
The night in order
Pick Speed Date before you promise a clock. You set the round length and how many tables are in use. A new party starts at five minutes. You start the next round when you are ready.
- Open the party and write the rules, including the round length.
- Invite the couples you want, or take applications and approve them.
- You check couples in. A couple counts when both partners arrive.
- You start the clock. They meet one table at a time.
- They say yes or no after they meet. Either partner answers for the couple.
- You open the mutual matches. Only a mutual yes is shown.
Invite, or take applications
Each couple you already know gets one private invite link. Send it by text or DM. Ask them not to post it. The street stays off that message until you release it.
New couples can apply. Post an apply link where they already look. You read each application and you decide who sits. An application is not a chair. Do not post the invite link.
The share kit has posts and graphics a couple can read before they ask to come. Those words are for them.
Run the rounds
You start the rotation. Couples meet, then say yes or no. You start the next round when you are ready. Either partner can change the answer until that next round starts.
A couple with no seat that round takes a break. Breaks rotate, so no couple sits out two rounds in a row. Keep the break as written. A hallway conference is how a private yes becomes a public no.
An open room can include singles. A single counts as arrived when that one person checks in. A single answers for themselves. A match still needs both sides to say yes. If a single meets a couple, say that shape in the invite so nobody is surprised at the table.
The door is yours
The street stays hidden until you release it. A place name can show earlier. Say the street once, as the host, when you mean to. Do not put it in the group chat.
Only the host checks people in. Guests cannot check themselves in. A co-host can use the dashboard. A co-host cannot delete the party or remove you. Message host is a private note only you and the co-hosts see. Guests do not message each other in private.
Write the dress, the phones, and which rooms are off limits as one line each. Guests agree before the rounds. If you edit a line, they agree again.
Walk it once before a real link
A test party lets you sit a round as a guest, including either partner. Test parties do not send email, push, or reminders. Use one to feel the clock before friends do.
If you do not have enough couples for the tables you planned, host a smaller night or move the date.
FAQ
What is on the card?
Both names and one couple photo. Either partner can add that photo or replace it. One person per card is a key party or a play party.
When do they say yes or no?
After they meet. There is no swipe window before the party. Either partner can answer, and either can change it until the next round starts.
What counts as a match?
Both couples saying yes. Yes or no is one answer for the couple. You show only those mutual matches. A no is never shown as a no.
Who checks people in?
Only the host. A couple counts when both partners arrive. Guests cannot check themselves in.
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