Adult only. Private by design.
How to host a speed date
A speed date is a private night you host on Pineapple Play Date. You choose Who's dating, guests meet in short rounds, and they say yes or no after each round. You reveal a match at the end only when both sides said yes.
What it is
A speed date on Pineapple Play Date is short rounds in one invited room. You choose Who's dating before anyone sits down. Guests meet, then say yes or no after each round. You reveal the matches when the rounds are over. A match shows only when both sides said yes. A one-sided yes stays hidden. A private no stays private.
Adult only. Private by design. You confirm they are 18 or older. There is no public guest pool. When you are ready, start from the host home. The hosting help walks through the clock and the door.
Who's dating
Who's dating has four choices. You pick one when you open the party. You can change it only before the first round. After that, the choice stays put.
Couples. Couples meet other couples. Each couple shares one yes or no. Either partner can answer, and it applies to both. This is the usual speed date. On a straight night, every couple is one man and one woman, there are no singles, and every couple meets every other couple. On a bi-friendly night, there are no singles.
Singles. Each person is their own date and answers for themselves. Add one person at a time. A couple cannot be on this list. Two people sit together only when each is interested in the other. A match needs both to say yes.
Couples seeking a woman. Each round pairs a couple with a single woman. The couple shares one yes or no. She answers for herself. A match needs both. The app will not add a single man. It says this speed date pairs couples with single women.
Couples seeking a man. Each round pairs a couple with a single man. The couple shares one yes or no. He answers for himself. A match needs both. The app will not add a single woman. It says this speed date pairs couples with single men.
If the list has no dates that can meet, the rotation will not start. The app says these guests have no dates to meet.
The night in order
Pick Speed Date, then Who's dating, before you promise a clock. A new party starts at five minutes a round. You can set the length from one minute to thirty. You set how many tables are in use. You start the next round when you are ready.
- Open a speed date and choose Who's dating: Couples, Singles, Couples seeking a woman, or Couples seeking a man. You can change that choice only before the first round.
- Set the round length and how many tables are in use. A new party starts at five minutes. You can set the length from one minute to thirty.
- Invite the people you want, or take applications and approve them. The invite has to match Who's dating. An application is not a seat.
- Check people in. A couple counts when both partners arrive. A single counts when that person arrives. The street stays hidden until you release it. The first round does not start until you start it.
- Start the rounds. They meet, then say yes or no. Either partner answers for a couple. A single answers for themselves. You can pause, add two minutes, or end the round. The next round waits until you start it.
- When the rounds end, reveal the matches. Phones wait about ten seconds. A match shows only when both sides said yes. A no, or no answer, stays hidden.
Invite, or take applications
Each person or couple you already know gets one private invite link. Send it by text or DM. Ask them not to post it. The street stays off that message until you release it. Email and reminders use a public-safe name, or Your event, not the real party name.
The invite has to match Who's dating. A singles night takes one person at a time. Couples seeking a woman takes couples and single women. Couples seeking a man takes couples and single men. A straight couples night takes one man and one woman, with no singles. A bi-friendly couples night takes couples, with no singles.
New people can apply. Post an apply link where they already look. You read each application and you decide who sits. An application is not a seat. Do not post the invite link.
The share kit has posts and graphics a guest can read before they ask to come.
Run the rounds
You start the rotation. Guests go to a table, the clock runs, and then they say yes or no about the people they just met. People they have not met yet are not on that list. You end the round yourself, or the clock ends it. Yes or no opens then. The next round waits until you start it.
Either partner can answer for a couple. A single answers for themselves. They can change the answer for the round that just finished until you start the next round. A missed round can still get a first answer later. An answer already given for an earlier round stays. Unanswered people do not block you. Answers close when you reveal the matches.
During a round you can pause. The timer stops until you resume. Add 2 minutes gives the current round two more minutes. End speed date stops the remaining rounds. You reveal matches after the night has ended. Phones wait about ten seconds. Matches stay hidden until that countdown ends. Then each guest sees only the matches where both sides said yes.
If there are more people than the tables can seat, someone sits that round out. On a singles night, or when couples are seeking one woman or one man, someone who sat out is seated next when a partner is free.
After a match is revealed, sharing a phone, an email, a handle, or a note is optional.
The door is yours
The street stays hidden until you release it. A place name can show earlier. Say the street once, as the host, when you mean to. Do not put it in the group chat.
You check people in, and a co-host can check people in with you. Guests cannot check themselves in. Checking someone in records that they arrived. It does not reveal the matches. A co-host can use the dashboard. A co-host cannot delete the party or remove you. Message host is a private note only you and the co-hosts see. Guests do not message each other in private.
Write the dress, the phones, and which rooms are off limits as one line each. Guests agree before the rounds. If you edit a line, they agree again.
Walk it once before a real link
A test party lets you sit a round as a guest, including either partner. Test parties do not send email, push, or reminders. Use one to feel the clock before friends do.
If you do not have enough people for the tables you planned, host a smaller night or move the date.
See also
The other host guides are here.
FAQ
What do they see?
When the meeting is a couple, both names show. A shared photo shows when they have one, and either partner can add or replace it. With no shared photo, the photos they already have show. A single shows their own name and their own photo.
When do they say yes or no?
After the round ends. Either partner can answer for a couple, and a single answers for themselves. They can change the answer for the round that just finished until you start the next round.
What counts as a match?
Both sides said yes. For two couples, that is one yes from each couple. For a couple and a single, that is a yes from the couple and a yes from the single. For two singles, that is a yes from each person. You reveal those matches only after the rounds end. A private no stays private.
Who checks people in?
You do, and a co-host can check people in with you. A couple counts when both partners arrive. A single counts when that person arrives. Guests cannot check themselves in. Checking someone in does not reveal the matches.
When the list is ready, you can host a couples speed date. You can start hosting from your own list.