You already have the room. Send a private invite to people you know, or post an apply link and approve who joins. A Modern Key Party, a play party, or a speed date for couples.
Where hosts post a swinger party
Club boards, Reddit, and private Facebook groups are the usual places. Keep it discreet. The street stays with you.
Club boards such as SLS, SDC, and Kasidie
Hosts often post where their guests already have a profile. Pineapple Play Date is not part of those sites, and this page is not their rulebook.
On a public board, use the apply link. Strangers apply, and you approve them. Keep the private invite for people you already know, and send it by text or DM. One post for the night. Name the format and say it is a private party for couples. Leave the street out. Do not upload photos of real guests. If a moderator asks for a change, make the change.
Reddit
Use a community that already talks about lifestyle parties. Read what that community asks of a host before you post.
Put the city or region, the night, and the format in the title. Post the apply link so people can ask to join. Do not put a private invite link in a public thread. This is a party for couples, not a personal ad. No street. No face photos. One post is enough. Answer in the thread instead of copying the same note into every community you can find.
Private Facebook groups
A private group has an admin. If you are new there, ask before you drop an event.
Post the apply link with a graphic from the apply set. People who want in apply, and you approve them. Send the private invite only by message to someone you already know. Do not add them yourself. Keep the street off the post. Use a picture you would still show if a hotel printed it.
An invite for people you know, or a post where people apply
Each note says what the night is, then how it works. Send the invite by text or DM with your private invite link. Post the apply version where new people can see it. They ask to join, and you decide. Fill in the party name, the date, and the link.
You're invited to {{partyName}}.
{{date}}
A Modern Key Party is a fun, exciting play party with a bit of mystery.
How it works:
1. The host invites friends they'd love to have there.
2. Before the party, you privately pick who you would like to play with, or not.
3. At the party, everyone sees at the same time who they are paired with for each round.
A no is never shown. The address stays private.
This link is only for you. Please do not post it.
{{inviteLink}}
Modern Key Party, apply short
{{partyName}}
{{date}}
A fun, exciting play party with a bit of mystery.
1. The host invites friends they'd love to have there.
2. Before the party, you privately pick who you would like to play with, or not.
3. At the party, everyone sees at the same time who they are paired with for each round.
A no is never shown.
Ask to join. The host decides who comes.
Adults only. The address stays private.
{{applyLink}}
Modern Key Party, apply long
{{partyName}}
{{date}}
A Modern Key Party is a fun, exciting play party with a bit of mystery. The old night used a bowl of keys. This one is a private pick, then a reveal.
How it works:
1. The host invites friends they'd love to have there.
2. Before the party, you privately pick who you would like to play with, or not.
3. At the party, everyone sees at the same time who they are paired with for each round.
A no is never shown. The address stays private.
Ask to join. The host decides who comes.
The host sends the house rules once you are in. The address stays private until then.
Adults 18 and older.
{{applyLink}}
You're invited to {{partyName}}.
{{date}}
A play party is a fun, relaxed night of play.
How it works:
1. The host invites friends they'd love to have there.
2. You see who is coming, and you can chat before the night.
3. You privately say yes to who you would like to play with.
4. At the party, every match where you both said yes is revealed.
A no is never shown. The address stays private.
This link is only for you. Please do not post it.
{{inviteLink}}
Play party, apply short
{{partyName}}
{{date}}
A fun, relaxed night of play.
1. The host invites friends they'd love to have there.
2. You see who is coming, and you can chat before the night.
3. You privately say yes to who you would like to play with.
4. At the party, every match where you both said yes is revealed.
A no is never shown.
Ask to join. The host decides who comes.
Adults only. The address stays private.
{{applyLink}}
Play party, apply long
{{partyName}}
{{date}}
A play party is a fun, relaxed night of play. You choose who you play with, and they choose you back.
How it works:
1. The host invites friends they'd love to have there.
2. You see who is coming, and you can chat before the night.
3. You privately say yes to who you would like to play with.
4. At the party, every match where you both said yes is revealed.
A no is never shown. The address stays private.
Ask to join. The host decides who comes.
The host sends the house rules once you are in. The address stays private until then.
Adults 18 and older.
{{applyLink}}
You're invited to {{partyName}}.
{{date}}
A speed date is a fun night meeting other couples.
How it works:
1. Meet each couple for a short round.
2. As a couple, say yes or no after you meet.
3. Only mutual matches are shown. Both couples said yes.
Yes or no is one answer for the couple. Either partner can answer, and it applies to both. Either can change it until the next round starts. A round starts at five minutes. The host starts each round. There is no extra time between rounds.
A no is never shown. The address stays private.
This link is only for you. Please do not post it.
{{inviteLink}}
Speed date, apply short
{{partyName}}
{{date}}
A fun night meeting other couples.
1. Meet each couple for a short round.
2. As a couple, say yes or no after you meet.
3. Only mutual matches are shown. Both couples said yes.
Yes or no is one answer for the couple. Either partner can answer, and it applies to both. Either can change it until the next round starts. A round starts at five minutes. The host starts each round. There is no extra time between rounds.
A no is never shown.
Ask to join. The host decides who comes.
Adults only. The address stays private.
{{applyLink}}
Speed date, apply long
{{partyName}}
{{date}}
A speed date is a fun night meeting other couples. You sit down with each couple before anyone decides.
How it works:
1. Meet each couple for a short round.
2. As a couple, say yes or no after you meet.
3. Only mutual matches are shown. Both couples said yes.
Yes or no is one answer for the couple. Either partner can answer, and it applies to both. Either can change it until the next round starts. A round starts at five minutes. The host starts each round. There is no extra time between rounds.
A no is never shown. The address stays private.
Ask to join. The host decides who comes.
The host sends the house rules once you are in. The address stays private until then.
Adults 18 and older.
{{applyLink}}
Share kit
Each party has its own invite set and its own apply set, in square, story, and landscape. One card is the invite or the ask. The next card says what the night is and how it works. The last card is the reveal. The dark boxes stay open for the party name, the date, and a QR or link.
Modern Key Party
Invite set
For a text or DM to someone you know. The dark boxes are the party name, the date, and a QR or the private invite link.
From your host dashboard. It is for people you already know. Send it by text or DM. Do not post it on a public board.
Where do I get the apply link?
From the same party. Post it on a club board, Reddit, or a Facebook group. A stranger applies, and you approve them before they are in. There is no public guest pool.
What are the dark boxes on the graphics?
The party name, the date, and a QR or link. They are left open so the host app can fill in that night. Until then, put those details in the caption.
Should the street go in the post?
No. The street stays hidden until you release it. The post only needs the invite or the apply link.
Are these graphics safe to post on a mainstream site?
Yes. They are party photos in peach, rose, and purple. No photos of your guests and no nudity. Still follow the board you are posting on.
Is Pineapple Play Date partnered with SLS, SDC, or Kasidie?
No. Those names are places hosts already post. This guide does not speak for them.
Then open the host app
The post sends people to your link. You still approve who walks in.
