Adult only. Private by design.
How to close a room at a lifestyle party
A closed door is part of the invite. Say which rooms are in, and treat every other door as shut.
The short answer
Before the first guest, name the rooms that are open: where people talk, where coats go, and where a private door is allowed if the night has one. Everything else stays shut. You do not explain the shut rooms.
Your host invites friends. The host invites friends they'd love to have there. One private link per couple. The link is not a tour of the house.
Adult only. Private by design. You confirm you are 18 or older. The host still checks you in. A closed door is not a suggestion to try the handle.
Name the open rooms once
Put the open rooms in the house rules and say them again at the door. Kitchen, living room, one bedroom, the bathroom. If a room is not on that list, it is closed.
The only bathroom stays available. A closed bedroom is not the bathroom. Say which door is which so nobody has to guess.
If the night is social until a time you named, the play room stays shut until then. Opening it early because two people wandered in is how the plan changes without a yes.
A closed door is a no
Guests do not open a shut door to see what is on the other side. They do not "borrow" a room you did not offer. Curiosity is not consent.
If you find someone in a closed room, the night pauses there. Ask them to come out. If they argue, the door is still yours, and you can ask them to leave.
A private no stays private. You do not have to say whose room it is or why it is shut. "That door stays closed" is the whole sentence.
The format does not open extra doors
All mutual-yes matches are revealed, whether that happens together, at check-in, or after the short rounds. A match is not a key to every room in the house.
A key party shows one Play Partner at the same time. A play party reveals matches at check-in. A speed date is short rounds, then yes or no. Same room or a separate room is a choice you already made. It does not add a third room you meant to keep shut.
FAQ
Do I have to say why a room is closed?
No. Name the rooms that are open. A closed door does not need a story.
What if someone needs the bathroom?
Point to the bathroom when they arrive. A closed bedroom is not a backup bathroom.
Can two couples use a room I did not open?
Only if you open it. A match is not permission to pick a door.
Should I lock the closed rooms?
If you can, yes. A lock is clearer than a hope. Say the rule anyway, because a lock can be missed.
Is this the same as same room versus separate room?
No. That choice is where a yes happens. This page is the rest of the house, which stays out of the night.
What if a guest keeps trying the handle?
Say the door stays closed, once, in a normal voice. If they do it again, ask them to leave. The room is not a negotiation.