Adult only. Private by design.
How to approach another couple
You are already on the list. A hello is a sentence, not a pitch. Ask once, then wait for their answer.
The short answer
Approach another couple the way you would greet friends of the host. Say both your names. One sentence about why you came over. Then stop talking and let them answer.
The host invited this room. One private link per couple. You are not working a public room. A hello in the living room is not a match. A name from the night appears only when both people said yes.
Adult only. Private by design. You confirm you are 18 or older. Only the host checks you in. Checking in does not open the names. When you are ready to host, start from the host home. The hosting help walks through the night.
How a hello goes
Short is kinder. They can always ask you to say more.
- Greet the host before you greet the room.
- Use the names you can already see. Skip the story about how new you are.
- Say you came over to talk, or that you are open to the line the house rules already set.
- Ask once. A pause is their turn.
- A spoken no ends the ask. Thank them and stay in the rooms that are open.
The ask
A clear ask sounds like this: we came over to say hello, or we are open to the night the house rules already describe, if you are. It does not sound like a speech, a joke that hides the ceiling, or a hand on someone who has not answered.
The house rules set the line for the room. The quieter yes between you and your partner sets your own ceiling. A yes on the phone is about a person, and it stays between you until both people said yes. Do not bargain for a fuller night in the kitchen.
On a play party you say yes or no to one person, unless the host set the night so couples answer together. On a key party you say yes or no to one photo and one name. On a speed date the answer is about a couple, and a match needs both couples to say yes. Your own partner is never someone you answer about.
If you are unsure which rooms are open, use Message host. That note stays with the host and the co-hosts. Guests cannot message each other in private.
When they say no
Thank them. Go back to your drink, your partner, or the couch. Do not ask again later in the hall. Do not put it in the group chat. Do not follow them through a shut door.
A private no on the phone stays private, so you may never see it. A one-sided yes stays hidden. If someone will not hear your spoken no, tell the host. Then leave with your partner if that is what you need.
FAQ
Do we introduce ourselves as a couple?
Yes. Say both names. You arrived together, and a hello includes both of you.
How long should the hello be?
A few sentences. Names, then why you came over. They can ask for more.
What if they do not answer right away?
Wait. A pause is an answer in progress. Do not fill it with a second ask.
Can we approach a couple we were not introduced to?
They are on the host's guest list, or they are not in the room. If you are unsure, ask the host.
What if we only wanted to talk?
Say that in the first sentence. Talking can be the whole night.
When the list is ready, you can host a key party, host a play party, or host a couples speed date.