Adult only. Private by design.
What to bring to a lifestyle party
Your host invites friends. Pack a small bag, shoes you can take off, and the phone with your invite. All mutual-yes matches are revealed when the night says so.
The short answer
A lifestyle party bag is small on purpose. The host invites friends they'd love to have there. One private link per couple. You already have the invitation. What you carry is the coat, the shoes, a full phone, and anything the invite asked you to bring.
The outfit is its own question. This page is the bag. If you are still choosing clothes, read the wear guide and follow the line your host wrote. Cocktail, a theme, or evening clothes you can sit in: the rule on the invite wins.
Adult only. Private by design. You confirm you are 18 or older before you pack the night. The host still checks you in at the door. A familiar street does not skip either step.
What goes in the bag
Pack the afternoon of the party, with both of you in the room. A bag you both know is kinder than a hunt in the car. Keep it light enough for one hand, because the other hand has a coat, a bottle, or your partner.
- Pack at home. A coat for the door, shoes you can walk in and take off, and a small bag you can keep with you. Leave the suitcase.
- Charge the phone. The invite, the door code, and the app live there. The street stays in the app until your host sends it.
- Bring what the invite named. A bottle, a small gift, or supplies the host asked for. If the invite named nothing, bring yourselves.
- Check in with your host. Show the code or the QR pass. The bag comes in with you. Only the host checks you in.
- On the way home, send a thank you without the address. All mutual-yes matches are revealed in the app, and the street stays out of the text.
The phone is the invite
Your link is private. Open it before you leave so you are signed in, the house rules are agreed, and the battery is full. A charger in the small bag is a kindness if the night runs long. You do not need a second device.
The street stays hidden until your host sends it. A place name can show earlier so you can judge the drive. The floor, the door, and the code wait. Do not copy the address onto a note in the cup holder or into a group text. If you get lost, message the host.
During the rounds or the reveal, the phone comes up for the app and then goes down. All mutual-yes matches are revealed in that app, when your host is ready. A photo of the room, the list, or the card does not belong in the bag's camera roll.
Shoes, a coat, and a layer
Wear the shoes you can walk from the car in. If the house asks for shoes off, you want a pair that comes off without a scene. Bare feet on a cold step is a long minute. Socks you like are a fine thing to tuck in the bag.
A coat, a jacket, or a wrap covers the walk from the street to the door. Neighbors see the driveway. The party is inside. Change, if you are going to, in the host's bathroom, not under a streetlight.
One extra layer you can put back on is enough. A fresh shirt for the ride home is plenty. A full second outfit turns the night into a luggage claim. The wear guide is where the clothes themselves are spelled out. Pack from that page, then close the closet.
Bring what the invite named
Read the invite twice. If your host asked for a bottle, bring a bottle you would drink. If they asked for a snack, bring something that does not need the oven. If they named a theme, the theme is the outfit, not a trunk of props.
A small gift is welcome when the invite left room for one. Flowers that need a vase, a cake that needs a plate, and a speaker that needs a cord all make work for the person who is trying to check people in. When in doubt, a bottle and a thank you.
If the host asked guests to bring their own supplies, pack those in the small bag and leave them there until you want them. You do not announce the pouch at the door. If the invite said nothing, do not invent a shopping list the afternoon of the party. Ask the host in a private note.
At the door
Arrive when the invite says. A few minutes early is kind. A half hour early finds the host still setting glasses. If you are late, message the host. Keep the street out of that text if you can say the delay without it.
You show a code or a QR pass. Only the host checks people in. The bag stays with you. Coats can go where your host points. A purse on a stranger's chair is how a phone goes missing, so pick a spot you can see.
Say hello with your names. The first minutes are the door, a drink, and the room. You do not need a speech. You need the bag closed and your hands free. If you brought a bottle, hand it over then, with a thank you, and let the host put it where it belongs.
What you keep with you
The small bag stays small all night. Phone, a lip color if you use one, the supplies you were asked to bring, and maybe a mint. A water bottle is optional. Most houses have a glass. Ask before you put a bottle on a wood table.
Phones stay face down while you talk. The app is for the yes or no, the check-in, and the reveal. All mutual-yes matches are revealed when your host reaches that moment. On a key party that is one shared reveal. On a play party it is at check-in. On a speed date it is when the rounds end. The bag does not change that. It just keeps the phone close.
If you need a quiet minute, the bag is an excuse to step to the hall, not a project. Tell your host if you are leaving a round or a room so the seat can be filled. Message host is the private note. The group chat is for the time you start and the time you end.
The ride home
Pack the bag again before you say goodbye. Phone, coat, the gift bag if one came back with you, and both shoes. A host should not find a wrap on the stair the next morning and wonder whose it was.
The thank you can wait until you are in the car or the next day. Say you had a good night. Leave the address, the door code, and the names of matches out of the text. All mutual-yes matches are revealed in the app. That is the place they stay.
If the night ran late, the fresh shirt in the bag is for the drive, the lobby, or breakfast. Drink water. Decide who is driving before you leave the block. The party ended when you checked out of the room. The bag is how you leave it tidy.
Learn more
The three nights use the same small bag. What changes is when you take the phone out. Clothes live on their own page.
A private list in a real city
These cities already have a page for an invited night. Pack the same bag. The street still waits until the host sends it.
FAQ
What should we bring to a lifestyle party?
A small bag, shoes you can take off, a coat for the door, and the phone with your invite. Bring a bottle or a gift only if the invite asked, or if a small thank you fits.
Do we need to bring the address?
No paper copy. The street stays in the app until your host sends it. Message the host if you get turned around.
What about clothes?
Follow the line your host wrote. The wear guide covers the outfit. This page is the bag around it: a coat, shoes you can remove, and one layer for the ride home.
Should we bring a gift?
If the invite named one, bring that. A bottle you would drink is a safe extra. Skip anything that needs the oven, a vase, or a long setup at the door.
Who checks us in?
Your host. You show a code or a QR pass. The bag comes in with you. You cannot check yourselves in.
When do matches show up?
All mutual-yes matches are revealed when your host reaches that moment. Together at a key party, at check-in for a play party, and when the rounds end for a speed date.